Recently, Sir Paul spoke to the Daily Mail about how his relationship with Heather Mills has affected his children:
"When you are married and have a family, it's completely different starting a relationship and Heather and I had to be really sensitive to their feelings. I'd seen Heather and I talked to the kids and said, 'How would you feel if I started getting feelings for another woman?' It was a hypothetical question. They said they wouldn't mind as long as I was happy and were really nice about it and I needed them to say that. But even so, we still had to be sensitive and we were a secret for a while. After that, we tried not to do anything that would make them feel bad and Heather did a great job of that, but at first it was difficult. They were used to seeing me driving up in a car with my wife - their mum - and now I was with another woman. But we worked through it very slowly and tried to be very positive and tried to take into account everyone's feelings, including our own and managed to get through it and it's got much better."Sir Paul admitted that the Driving Rain songs he wrote for Heather were difficult for him to play for his children, saying, "I felt a bit guilty, because it was like 'Oh my God, I can't play this to the kids." Still, he has no regrets about Heather: "Falling in love with her has been great and very exciting. You're lucky to know that once in a lifetime - twice is amazing."
Following Linda's death, music was both a release and a therapy for him:
"'When she died, it was a case of waiting to see if I would want to write at all. For a few months I was grieving and I didn't do anything. Then after a while I started to think, 'Yes', because I love music a lot. Then I found myself at home on the piano, writing some quite sad songs. I liked them and I tried one out for the new album, but it didn't quite work out.In another interview with Q magazine, Sir Paul revealed that around 1968 he binged on cocaine for a year before Linda persuaded him to stop:
"Towards the end of the year that Linda died, I wrote a song called Magic, about the night I first met her. It was a much more positive song and I've included it on the album - and I started to think then that I might be able to get back into it.
"I realized I had turned a corner with that song, because I suddenly thought, 'I'm really proud to have known someone as beautiful as Linda for 30 years', instead of thinking, 'Oh, we only had 30 years together'. Some people are together forever and don't have as good a relationship.
"I didn't know if I was ever going to want a relationship again. I remember thinking I might get really monkish and never find anyone who matches up. There was that feeling, plus the worry and the guilt, thinking it was a betrayal of Linda in some way. But having gone through that and, as Linda would have said, beaten myself with a soggy noodle, I realized that wasn't how it was going to be and when I saw Heather I really fancied her. I was a bit shocked to find I was normal, but felt I had turned another corner. If Linda were here she'd have been after me with a big rolling pin, but I think she'd want me to be happy. That was the sort of love we had.
"I've had my sadness - my mum died when I was young and Linda died, but life changes direction whether you like it or not. Linda and I thoroughly expected to be a little retired couple sitting on the porch. We all hope for that, but we had this tragedy that meant it wasn't to be. My life changed that day, but I do try to look at things positively and Heather is very good that way. She believes that things happen for a reason. She wouldn't have been at that awards ceremony if it wasn't for her accident and we would never have met."
"I was lucky to have Linda, because she did ground me. There were certain things I was going off on that she could pull me back from. Linda would say, 'Are you sure you want to do that tonight?' And I'd go, 'Oh, there's an alternative?' She reminded me there was this real life there that I liked a lot."
(kindly submitted by PLUGGED correspondent Joan M. Hopkins)
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